How do I keep my marriage going strong?
Hello All! This post is about how to keep your marriage going strong. This will apply to keeping any relationship going strong, actually! Replace the word wife with husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, friend… literally any relationship. Get ready and read on…
OK so before I start I want to say that I am aware that there are many different relationship dynamics, preferences, and statuses out there. I am only talking about mine and I can only discuss my personal experiences. You can tailor this information to any type of relationship that you are in or know anyone else is in. I hope that makes sense.
Alright so here it is. So I am married. I mean I guess that’s obvious because I mentioned my wife in this post. So if you don’t know this, when you get married and you’ve been married for a bit, you find yourself spending more time around other married people. I mean you kind of lose touch with single people. It’s really just because your in different places in life. I mean, let’s face it. Single people do different things than married people.
Anyway so most all of my friends are married. Plus when you’re married, you tend to be able to talk to other married people about married stuff. I mean you can talk to them easier, it’s like a conversation ice-breaker. Could be at work, when you take your kids to the playground, or just out and about.
Now, I don’t know if I am the typical husband or not. I really don’t know. Don’t care either but don’t know. I do things around the house. I clean up, I do dishes, I do laundry, I make beds, I pick up toys, I clean windows, I cook dinner, I make lunch, I cook breakfast, I take our kids to sports practices and games, Doctor’s appointments… I am involved in our kid’s education in the way that I attend our their school functions, drop them off at school or the bus stop, pick them up, etc. You get it. I do a lot around our home and for our family.
MY WIFE DOES TOO. She loves to cook and she’s good at it so she cooks more than I do but I still get in there when I can and whip something up. She likes to grill too which is pretty awesome. Yeah, my wife runs the grill like a BOSS.
Anyway, all of those things that I just mentioned are things that my wife and I both do. Some of them every day and some of those don’t happen everyday obviously but when they do we both take care of them either together or take turns or whatever.
Sometimes when I talk to other married guys and tell them some of that stuff. I get a response like, “Man that’s cool that you help your wife”. I basically come back by saying “I don’t help my wife”. Obviously I just listed all of that stuff that I do for our family so sometimes they look a bit confused when I say that I don’t help my wife.
Here’s the thing. DOING THAT STUFF IS NOT HELPING MY WIFE. Let me break it down for you…
I clean up around the house. It’s my house too. It’s my responsibility too.
I do dishes. I used those dishes too. I ate off of those dishes too. It’s my responsibility too.
I do laundry. Those are my clothes too, my kid’s clothes, my wife’s clothes and we are married. It’s my responsibility too.
When I cook breakfast, lunch, or dinner it’s because I am eating too and I am feeding our family. OUR FAMILY. It’s not just my wife’s family and not just her responsibility to feed us. It’s not her responsibility to work all day and then get home and have to cook every single night while the kids and I sit around watching TV and waiting for our plates. CMON.
Anything AT ALL that I mentioned having to do with our kids should be a NO BRAINER. THEY ARE OUR KIDS. OUR KIDS. We made them together and we raise them together.
THIS IS OUR FAMILY. WE ARE A TEAM. Like I said, I DON’T HELP MY WIFE. It’s not HER JOB to care for OUR family. It’s OUR PLEASURE to DO IT TOGETHER.
That’s how we do it in our house. It works for us. You have a different arrangement? If it works for both of you, then YOU DO YOU. If only one person in your relationship is happy and the other is miserable or feeling taken advantage of, maybe it’s time to come up with a new game plan. If you are the person in the relationship that is feeling miserable or taken advantage of, maybe it’s time for you to re-evaluate your personal goals and have a talk with your other half.
YOU ARE IMPORANT. YOU’RE PERSONAL HAPPINESS IS IMPORTANT. BE YOUR OWN ADVOCATE. SPEAK UP.
GUYS, get out of that I HELP MY WIFE mindset.
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