Avoid Being a Victim
OK people. Here we go. Life is full of choices, right? You make choices every day. What do I want to eat for breakfast? What shirt, pants, and shoes do I want to put on? What song do I want to listen to right now? A little bit deeper… what sport to I want to play? What college do I want to attend? What do I want to do with my life? Right? Some things we have all probably thought at some point.
How about this one. Have you ever asked yourself “Do I want to be a victim today”? What? Huh? What did he just say? That’s stupid. Why would I ask myself if I want to be a victim? Like of a crime? No I don’t want to be a victim. I wouldn’t even think to ask myself that. Of course you wouldn’t think of it but guess what? You make that choice every day, whether you realize it or not.
There are many way that this happens, I am going to talk about a couple of the ways that stick out to me. These are a couple ways that I see most people making this decision every day.
Let’s say that you’re walking down the street, you have your head down, staring at the ground as you walk, or maybe these days you have your face buried in your smart phone. So you all know that if your face is buried in your smartphone or if you are staring at the ground as you walk, that’s where the main part of your attention is too right? Because it’s pretty much impossible to give our full attention to multiple things at the same time. Maybe you’re slouching now too, maybe you’re walking slowly because subconsciously your brain knows you’re not giving your full attention to navigating along your walk so it slows you down so if you do run into a light pole it won’t hurt as bad, right?
So because you give off this aire that you aren’t paying attention to your surroundings and don’t really care what’s going on around you. To a hungry bad guy, or girl, that’s looking to take advantage of someone you look like free lunch. You are not ready for whatever is about to happen. That’s not good.
That is an example of making a decision to be a victim. I mean, you didn’t leave your house saying… hey I want to be a victim today… but all of the things you are doing really projects that statement out to the rest of the world.
Stand up straight. Keep your chin up. It’s ok to check your phone while you walk, but CMON MAN put it back in your pocket and keep it moving. Look straight ahead and all around as you walk. Observe the world around you. Not only does this keep you safe but I bet you’ll see some really cool stuff out there that you may have been missing out on because you were looking around.
Ok so let’s talk about another way that you MAY be making the decision to be a victim. This one doesn’t have to do with protecting yourself from being a victim of a crime but I mean in a way by doing this you’re robbing yourself of the joy that you could be experiencing each day.
Do you know anyone who is ALWAYS having a bad day? I mean, no matter what day it is… it could be Monday or Friday… it could be rain or sunshine outside… this person always says something like this… I bet you’ve heard stuff like this before… “Oh yeah, it’s a nice sunny day out BUT it’s too hot… I’m sweating” or “Yeah it’s Friday but I mean I’ll just sit inside this weekend anyway” or this one which is really confusing because the person just actually accomplished something but they still don’t want to feel good “Oh, yeah, I did make the team BUT I was only selected because (insert self-loathing excuse for your success here)”. I mean, seriously, STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR YOUR SUCCESSES PEOPLE. Anyway…
You cannot look at life as if it is holding you back. Life doesn’t have the power to hold you back. It has the power to set you back but you need to get back up and start moving forward again. Always be moving forward or getting yourself back in a position to move forward again. Also, when you succeed at something, be proud of yourself and realize that you deserve that success. Celebrate it and then get on to the next one.
DO NOT LET YOURSELF BE A VICTIM OF LIFE. DO NOT BE A VICTIM OF YOURSELF. BE A VICTOR… NOT A VICTIM.
Make the decision to walk with pride, stick out your chest and hold your head up high. Back when I was in high school… man that was a while ago… anyway… I remember I felt so proud just to be there… I would walk around all sure of myself standing tall and then one day this friend of mine says to me “why do you walk around sticking your chest out”? BECAUSE I FEEL GOOD, THAT’S WHY. Yeah that’s what I should have said but you know I think I let THAT ONE SILLY LITTLE COMMENT shut me down. I thought about it and thought about it. Eventually I think I was asking myself that same question and then I became so self-conscious about it that I stopped doing it and I probably starting slouching a little bit just to blend in so I wouldn’t have to worry about anyone calling me out again for looking like I was feeling too good about myself. How ridiculous is that? Looking back at it, that was a mistake on my part. That was an opportunity to be a VICTOR and I chose to be a VICTIM. This person was a friend of mine too. Crazy huh. Surround yourself with people who lift you up.
Listen choose to believe that life CANNOT hold you back. Choose to believe that YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE. Choose to believe that YOU ARE PROUD OF YOURSELF and that YOU ARE ALWAYS MOVING FORWARD NO MATTER WHAT. BE A VICTOR NOT A VICTIM… OF ANYTHING OR ANYONE. Believe in yourself. i believe in you.
Stay tuned for more motivational and hopefully inspirational content coming your way from Sixty Mile Motivation. Until next time, remember… you don’t quit, you never give up, you are ALWAYS FORWARD. YOU CAN DO THIS.